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You can’t just expect her to come to you. You have to pursue her a bit.

Keep that in mind, and you’ll find things go your way a lot more often. #8 Be a good listener.

Find your ideal mating market, aka the place where you have the best chances of meeting your ideal type of girl and achieving your definition of dating success (for me, that’s proven to be Mexico City and New York). What’s more, girls you have chemistry with make for the best girlfriends. That natural spark is there from the beginning, and you can’t really fake it or manufacture it (though you’ll meet a lot more girls you have chemistry with if you have your dating fundamentals down).

If you’ve already spent enough time building rapport, then ask her out and meet her. Don’t spend too much time flirting in messages. Nothing beats a face-to-face interaction. Remember, it’s hardly ever about you. Perhaps she has a boyfriend, or perhaps she’s a lesbian.

1. Make the decision: You want or need a girlfriend

• I’m sure you’ve known couples that do everything together.
• You’ve even tried self-help books on how to make yourself more attractive to others.
• If you know her from school or she’s already a friend then just ask her straight up, “Do you want to go out with me on Saturday night?
• It shows us that maybe you have your life together and that you have a sense of fashion (which means you might be able to pick out a decent gift for us when holidays and birthdays come around).
• And text conversations are no different.
• It’s not her fault, his fault, or anyone else’s fault but your own; if you have yet managed to date a hot girl or find one to be your girlfriend.

Use this time to have fun and get to know yourself rather than trying to get serious. If you aren’t prepared to talk to a girl, you are likely going to be in trouble. Women like guys that are ready, up for the challenge. If you choose to stick in the “friend zone,” well you’re on your own.

The relaxed atmosphere can play to your advantage; it’s easier to start a conversation with someone who’s just hanging out than someone who’s clearly on their way to something. Books and sketch pads provide an instant opening for conversation, and a pleasant conversation could be precisely the sort of distraction that the women there would welcome. The sole purpose of this article is to get you a girlfriend! After you’re done, there will be no excuse to why you can’t have a girlfriend in your arm and bed every night.

1. Listen, Don’t Hear

What’s more, it’ll help you manage the relationship so she sticks around and even gets addicted to being with you. If you’re in the first category, you face challenges like attracting new girls, learning great dating fundamentals, and learning not to be desperate in your girlfriend search. It’s OK to go home and cry. It’s not OK to smear her reputation or stalk her. Respect her space.

Perhaps even more so than confidence, ambition in a man is attractive. Women really don’t like lazy men, so someone who is ambitious and motivated to achieve things will instantly catch their attention. There is obviously a fine line; women don’t want a workaholic boyfriend. But it’s really good to be passionate about things (not just work) and if you’re motivated to achieve things, women will instantly find you more attractive and interesting.

So, don’t be shy in your pursuit to get a girlfriend. Get out there and find your next relationship. #10 Know what to do under the sheets.